Top 10 Ways to Kick the Post-Holiday Blues

Christmas 0091)  Instead of being sad that Christmas is over, remember your actual Christmas. Not the one that Frank Sinatra sings about, but the one with your drunk aunt and the watery dollar store lotion your co-worker re-gifted you.

I don't know about you, but I spend Christmas with these people.
I don’t know about you, but I spend Christmas with these people.

2)  Don’t focus on the shorter days – focus on the longer nights! Slip into your PJs moments after walking in the door. Spike your hot cocoa with some Kahlua and settle in for a night of Netflix.

3)  Winter is the least expensive time of year to fly off to a sunny locale. And honestly, who’d want to pay peak season rates to leave a warm and sunny place, just to arrive in another warm and sunny place? Going in winter also earns you social media bragging points. Don’t overdo it – everyone hates that guy. Not jealousy, actual hate.

4)  The stores have already shamelessly stocked their shelves with Valentine’s Day tackiness. Forget the crowded restaurants with the overpriced prix fixe menus, which is an old restaurant trick to push out a surplus of expiring food. Instead, send those you care about a nostalgic surprise; a children’s Valentine’s Day card in the mail, complete with candy hearts. And on February 15th, snatch up some high-end chocolates on discount. Godiva will be dying to purge their heart-shaped candy boxes.

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Dinner party at our L.A. cabin

5)  Liven up these drab months for others too, and throw a dinner party. Not only will you be surrounded by good company, but your home will be spruced up, and if your guests were brought up right, you’ll have a couple of extra bottles of something!

6)  Just because the forecast resembles the hideous weather from California Dreamin’, doesn’t mean you need to go pasty. Exfoliate that dry winter skin and do a self-tanner at home. Yow will look fantastic naked.

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No sun? No problem! Thank you Lancome Flash Bronzer!

7)  Learn some new crock pot recipes. Those warm, hearty meals are perfect for this time of year, and will make your house smell of heavenly meat potpourri.

8)  Whether or not you made resolutions, there’s no doubt that exercise gets your endorphins up. If it’s cold where you live, take up an indoor activity that you’ll be more likely to do. Yoga Today is offering a free, 14-day trial which will get you two weeks of freebies. And Amazon hosts a plethora of used exercise DVDs that come at a fraction of the price of a live class.

9)  Take a cue from Elle Woods and go get a mani pedi! Avoid the Bend and Snap.

de2eb6f2-73c7-4881-998c-411742189b6810) Instead of waiting for it to warm up, take advantage of the cold weather. If it snows, go sledding. If it’s cold inside, start up a fire and roast some marshmallows. If there’s an ice storm, know that it’s like earth porn for photographers. It’s gorgeous. Grab a camera, be careful and capture the beauty of it. And always remember, we can’t truly appreciate spring without a harsh winter to precede it.

My Favorite Things – Holiday Edition

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Hideous Christmas cards – look closely

Season’s Greetings!

To celebrate this magical time of year, I’ve listed some of my favorite things. It feels good to be reminded of countless little blessings that often go unnoticed. Such as…

watching children open presents

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the red cups at Starbucks

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Christmas boat parades! This one is themed after the holiday classic,

A Christmas Story!

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Sledding weather, and the grilled cheese sandwiches, tomato soup and hot cocoa that follow the sledding.

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baker’s twine on brown paper

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Vince Guaraldi’s classic Christmas album

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Heavenly Flavors, Hellish Competition

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“Having good chili isn’t enough,” remarked a competitive guest, “You have to have a gimmick – something they’ll remember your chili by.” Indeed, competition is fierce – there are around 15 varieties in the long line of simmering crock pots. Some used unexpected ingredients, such as duck or pineapple. Others had playful names like,”You Never Sausage Chili.”

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A charming, autumn-inspired entryway leads guests to the backyard

The Lewis family does a chili cook-off right. There are plenty of fixings on hand to liven up any bowl, such as shredded cheese, sour cream, fresh-baked cornbread and corn chips. To keep kids occupied, there are heaping trays of chicken nuggets and a mulch-bottomed playground. For the adults, there’s an open bar stacked with small-batch moonshine and ice cold kegs of beer.

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Guests come hungry and eat small samples. First-timers usually become too full to try each chili.

As guests enjoy the brisk autumn air, they huddle over bowls of spicy chili and stand around a fire, trying hard to find out which guest brought what chili. Both the cooks and the voters remain anonymous to keep it fair, and the winner takes home an actual trophy!

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This annual tradition marks the beginning of the holiday season, and the Lewis family invites friends, family and neighbors alike. This coveted invite promises treats beyond chili. Mulled spice wine simmered on the stove. A deer hunter brought venison-stuffed jalapenos. Not to mention the company. Hostess Melanie Lewis can be described as Pinteresting. This mother of three knits gorgeous scarves, bakes chocolate chip cookies from scratch with her children and crafts like Martha. Brett Lewis is the CEO of Create Digital, a digital marketing company that’s ahead of their time and at least five steps ahead of most Richmond agencies.

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Hosts Brett and Melanie Lewis. The hostess stays chic in a leather jacket and magenta scarf she knit herself.

As I stood on the deck, I noticed the leaves were aglow of every color and the air smelled of wood smoke. The setting sun cast an orange glow over the guests. Women hugged and men compared their “Movember” starter beards. This scene of camaraderie belied the hellish underpinnings of competition. These guests were having a blast no doubt. But they also came to win.

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Playful couple Mandy Blankenship and Charlie Rhodes are to be wed at Veritas Vineyard in a matter of weeks.

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Key to the Cure (Party Photos)

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Annual tee designed by Rag & Bone
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Me (left) with Richmond.com Editor-in-Chief Karri Peifer
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Fashion show and appearance by designer Nanette Lepore
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with 103.7 PLAY’s DJ Melissa Chase
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The best desserts were provided by The Jefferson
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Bourbon tasting by a local distillery
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with Summit Media NSM Amy DeVries

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Celebrate Autumn with a Backyard Campfire!

kissesIndoor parties are a mixed blessing. Unfortunately you have to tidy your home. Fortunately, your home is tidy.

Outdoor parties are a different ballgame. Hang a sign on the front door and unlock a side gate. The only part of your home that needs cleaning is the path from the back door to the nearest bathroom.

0166b1f3c49ce32c6cee53c9800e9435127965a147In my last post, I laid down some serious Carpe Diem on old, fleeting Autumn. So I took my own advice and threw an impromptu backyard campfire!

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What you’ll need:

– A box of Hershey bars

– Graham crackers

– A bag of marshmallows

– tree sticks (thin, straight and scrubbed down under a yard hose)

– hot dogs, buns & condiments

– hot cocoa (with Kaluha or whiskey to spike it with!)

– firewood and a fire pit

– lawn chairs and blankets

01cc46f775b66cce995e4e6c1c56fbd434956132c6Set the scene! Circle your fire pit with lawn chairs and drape cozy blankets across each one. Have all the sticks ready to go in a metal pail. Load up a nearby table with an ample “Fixin’s Bar” for the roasted weiners, and plenty of liquor to spike the cocoa. How to make hot cocoa outdoors? Fill up a thermos or two with hot water and keep some cream on ice. The marshmallows for the s’mores make a perfect topping.

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014aea944ffc05bec1a63942043d65afaf9a20c021Curl up under your blanket. Tell stories by the fire. Eat marshmallows until your chin is sticky. Autumn will be gone before you know it.

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October Waits for No One

Walking my greyhounds last night, a gust of wind hit and it had the delicious smell of wood smoke. Prior to that, I was staring at the ground going over my to-do list. But the wind made me stop and look up. That’s when I noticed pumpkins stacked on front porch steps and barrels filled with mums. I noticed that the leaves on our Japanese maple had turned crimson. “Oh my god,” I thought, “It’s October.” And October is halfway over.

I usually revel in Octoberfests and haunted hayrides. I even give in to that sentimentality-based marketing scheme/religion pushed upon us by Starbucks; the Pumpkin Spice Latte. I see what you did there, Starbucks.

But then I had a baby. In the mad dash of my new routine, I had forgotten to take in this last gorgeous month before the nip in the air begins to bite, when Halloween parties promise a good time and when the Shenandoah Valley is afire with  color.

I’m not letting October go without a fight. Neither should you. Get out there!

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October dinner party at our L.A. cabin – sometimes setting the mood is more exciting than the party itself

Arrested Development Viewing Party

GROUP PICAnother gift from Hollywood means another viewing party! The gift I mention is the re-vamp of Arrested Development. The critically-acclaimed cult hit was canceled on-air after just three seasons, because of all the knuckle draggers who’d rather watch Honey Boo Boo and nouveaux riche housewives grappling with middle age, via a liquid diet.  The liquid being primarily vodka.

But Netflix graced us with their ingenuity, creating and airing a long-awaited Season Four. Will there be a Season Five? Yes. It’s only a matter of getting all the actors together at one time. A criticism of Season Four was that all the actors were in separate scenes, with no real footage of the Bluth family all together. It’s a dynamic worth waiting for.

So prepare yourselves, darlings! Scroll down for tips on throwing the ultimate Arrested Development viewing party!

Pop-up Banana Stand at the Grove in L.A.!
Pop-up Banana Stand at the Grove in L.A.!

It wouldn’t be complete without frozen dipped bananas and corn balls; two major references to the series. Corn balls can be made with a hush puppy recipe – but I just winged it with some corn flour, eggs, a dash of milk, and spices. No matter what, add onion powder and a dash of cayenne to keep the cornballs from being too bland.

I even created Blue Man Balls for the eternal mess Tobias Funke. Just make some good old-fashioned Rice Krispies Treats with blue food dye added to the marshmallow mix, and roll into balls instead of laying in a pan.

As with any viewing party:

– Dress up as your favorite character and ask guests to do the same. Laughter is guaranteed when every single guest walks through the door.

– Lower the lights. It discourages loud conversation so enthusiasts can enjoy the film.

– Have plenty of pillows and blankets on hand – you want guests to settle in and get cozy!

– Have a thematic gift, and use it as a prize for the fan who knew the most trivia about the film or series.

– Refresh drinks and pass around trays of food mid-program so guests needn’t take their eyes off the TV.

Have fun!

Postcard from Capri!

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Jet set central in the 1960s, I’ve had a thing for the place ever since reading that Jackie O and her even more beautiful sister Lee Bouvier frequented it. I love that surrounding yachts dot the Tyrrhenian Sea, stark against the azure blue.

mediterranean 155Nowadays, socialites tend to flock to more obscure locales, since the island has been positively run over by tourists. Guilty as charged, though I can’t help when I was born.

mediterranean 153If you can, try to avoid the funicular and bus, stuffy and packed with tourists. Instead, opt for the stairs that run up the island. If you’re not in great shape, then at least take the stairs on the way down. The stone paths are winding and secretive. You can catch a glimpse of the real residents, a total contrast to the high-end shopping offered on Capri’s summit. There are trees dripping with lemons, and families gathered around big oak tables toasting with homemade limoncello. Beaugainvillea climbs over the stone walls. You catch the scent of baking bread and ragu simmering on the stove.

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Looks exactly like Beverly Hills, right down to the foliage.

Once you reach the summit, it’s a different world. Chanel, Dolce & Gabbana and Prada outposts await the moneyed tourists, and sun-bronzed millionaires taking day trips off their yachts. Even those who aren’t wealthy can enjoy what Capri has to offer; fresh-caught seafood and a bottle of wine. And of course, gelato!

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A Slice of Hollywood in Wilmington, NC

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The town of Wilmington, North Carolina is often referred to as “Filmington.” TV shows such as Eastbound and Down and Dawson’s Creek were locally-based.  Wilmington is also home to a range of films;  from the David Lynch classic Blue Velvet to summer blockbusters like Iron Man. Unfortunately, North Carolina tax laws may push this lucrative business down to Atlanta and New Orleans, which are more film-friendly.

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Inspired by Gone with the Wind’s Tara, the previous owners raised the columns to be two stories high

But whether or not the film industry flees North Carolina, John West is in Wilmington to stay, thankyouverymuch. West has been in the business for over 20 years, and while work led him to Los Angeles for over a decade, he was thrilled to return to North Carolina. He and his four dogs feel quite comfortable in this historic home, with two-story columns out front flanked by twin palms.  He has his beloved boat for weekend excursions.  Not to mention his mother, who lives nearby. Not only are they close friends, but Martha West is such an impeccable cook, that I wouldn’t want to be too far from her myself.

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Kate Gibbs speaking up for film in Wilmington

The weekend we visited, the film industry held a demonstration to keep production local. West’s girlfriend Kate Gibbs even made the news, speaking up for the cause. It was a relaxing weekend, kicked off by a thunderstorm that knocked out power in West’s neighborhood. It was a welcome event.  We lit candles, poured some bourbon and sat on the front porch rockers, catching up.

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Fried green tomatoes – classic

We ate at one of the best restaurants I’d ever visited, called Rx. This former pharmacy has a modest look that belies some serious artistry in the kitchen. Our accommodations were beyond compare – we stayed in a guest house fully-equipped with a bathroom and kitchen, and well-decorated interiors.

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John West and Kate Gibbs

The best part of the trip however, was the boat ride. We cruised waterways that slid by restaurants and bars. We passed tiny islands that appear and disappear depending on the tide. I almost forgot I was in an industry town until we sped past the modern home which was the setting of Sleeping with the Enemy. We even skirted close to Cape Fear, made famous by the Scorcese thriller starring Robert DeNiro, Jessica Lange and Juliette Lewis.

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It was a nice slice of Hollywood, but just a sliver of a slice. Only in the South can one expect a pickled okra in their Bloody Mary!

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We luxuriated in the detached guest home – with full kitchen and bath!

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My favorite room in the home was the foyer, warm and welcoming with an antique lighting fixture.

Homemade brunch - Martha's breakfast casserole, fresh fruit, angel wings and "Georgia Ice Cream" - AKA grits.
Homemade brunch – Martha’s breakfast casserole, fresh fruit, angel wings, coffee and “Georgia Ice Cream” – AKA grits.

A custom painting of three of his dogs hangs over an antique roll desk.
A custom painting of three of his dogs hangs over an antique roll desk.

A plaque marks the home's historic status.
A plaque marks the home’s historic status.

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The devil is in the detail in this fine home.